‘My’ Woman and ‘Other’ Woman

 

‘My’ Woman and

‘Other’ Woman

MY WOMAN is man’s social need and OTHER WOMAN is man’s physical hunger

By Mukesh Sharma

 

All through ages and scriptures, the woman has been eulogized with the winged words. Paeans have been sung in her honour: God is within her, she will not fall, says the Bible. The holy Koran puts woman as a mother on the pedestal higher than God. The Hindu religion deifies her as Goddess Minerva, Lakshmi, and Durga. Says Diane Mariechild, “A woman is a full circle. Within her is a power to create, nurture and transform.”

However, keeping in view the plight of the common woman on the ground, all flowery statements can be dismissed as sheer intellectual dandyism.

 

It’s a fact that in man’s world, women are classified in two categories: MY WOMAN and OTHER WOMAN. MY WOMAN signifies - my daughter, my sister, my wife, my mother or any relation related to ‘My.’ And any woman who doesn’t fall under the category of ‘my’ is ‘OTHER WOMAN.

MY WOMAN deserves all the needed care and caress, pamper and preferences. She is respected and is made hon’ble woman. She gives birth to man’s legal heirs and furthers his lineage. Undoubtedly, she is indispensable part of man’s social system. And the man is essentially a social animal.

Behind the most of the successful women, there is force of ‘my’. It may come from father, brother, husband or son. If ‘my’ does not spring from any social relation, it may emanate from any ‘friend’ i.e. ‘my friend’. Nevertheless, the force of ‘my’ from a friend doesn’t come for free. The woman enjoying it must pay the ‘price’; she must compromise her ‘principle’. In his Uncle Vanya (1897), says Anton Chekhov:

A woman can become a man’s

friend only in the following stages - first

an acquaintance, next a mistress and

only then a friend.

 Moonshine is not possible without the sunshine. Exceptions are rare. 

On the other hand, OTHER WOMAN is the most coveted woman for the man. She is leered at public places; she is looked on with prying eyes; she is ogled in the assembly; she is touched up in metro; she is groped and grappled in jam-packed buses; she is harassed at work places; sexual advances are made wherever she is.  Moment she is out of her home, she is raped by words, thoughts and action. Total reported cases of rape in 2019 were 32,033 – 88 rapes every day. Figures may be phenomenally high with unreported cases across India.

Irony is OTHER WOMAN is not safe without the force of ‘my’ of the man. At any stage of age, she is considered as ripe for rape. Reported cases of child rape in orphanage and children shelter home don’t surprise the common people, particularly, in India.

It’s an acknowledged fact that to an ambitious OTHER WOMAN, even if she is talented and educated, it is not easy to make a niche in man’s world. Every Kangna will have to pass through the  casting couch; off the record, she will be referred to with choicest words – harmkhor  is only on the record. ‘Me too’ revelations by scores of ‘celebrities’ tell the plight and predicament of ‘OTHER’ WOMAN in man’s world.

When this OTHER WOMAN is left to fend for herself by the ‘MY’, she has no choice but to embrace the ancient profession – selling her body in man’s market. Like other languages, English too has umpteen derogatory words to make a mention of such OTHER WOMAN – Prostitute, whore, harlot, hooker, scarlet woman, street walker, hustler, one night stand girl, lady of the evening, gold digger, etc. Each noun is self explanatory and a jibe against OTHER WOMAN.

OTHER WOMAN who don’t want to adopt the ‘profession’ prefer to find a Sugar Daddy – a man double the age of a woman who has enough means to support the other young woman. She lives with the man like his wife. For an elderly man, a young woman is a trophy wife. Man’s law has coined the phrase for such relationship as live-in partner. Man always has upperhand. A woman is destined to crouch and cry under the weight of man.

Though the law cries hoarse to tell the world that woman is not second to man, she lives under watchful eyes of man as a daughter, wife, and mother. Gender sensitization is just an eye wash. She becomes “Bharat ki beti” after her brutal rape and murder only like Nirbhay. Even capital punishment is wanting to deter man to repeat Nirbhaya in different parts of India. Leave aside the man of alleged low bred or of base origin, even the man seemingly gentlemen in broad day light may turn out to be a beast in the dead of night. What matters is opportunity. MY WOMAN is a social need of the man and OTHER WOMAN is his physical hunger.  

From Sexy Clothes to Mystic Mask

 

From Sexy Clothes 

to Mystic Mask

There is more to this ‘mask’ than meets the eye. Read a curtain raiser write up

By Mukesh Sharma

Man comes to earth in his ‘birthday suit’. In early days of human evolution, he would move around buck naked. The natural sensation in erogenous zones on human body at the sight of opposite sex, made man to feel the need of wearing the loin cloth  – it helps to hide the copulative desires, and passes him for a man of ‘good’ character.

There is more to this ‘mask’ than meets the eye

With the course of time and material advancement, other wears were developed. However, the ‘sex’ was the basis of all the clothing – woman clothes were suitable for woman body – helpful in giving nature’s call and perform quickly and comfortably other ‘acts’ – man’s clothes too were made with compatibility to male ‘needs’. Further clothes were developed to give the man a distinctive identity related to region, tradition, culture, profession and position. In other words, each clothes  worn by the man serves specific purpose.

Now the mystic mask has also joined the wardrobe of the man. Unlike other wears designated for man and woman separately, the mask is not sexist. Irrespective of colour or country, region or religion, rich or poor, it treats all equally. What genius like Karl Marx couldn’t do, the petty mask has done. Right from Donald Trump to common tramp pissing around on the roads of Indian cities, everyone wear mask. Mask is a great leveler.

Though the common man doubts the efficacy of mask being used for the prevention of spread of corona, for,  the tinniest virus can pass through any porous fabric, he sees a big ‘’conspiracy and million dollar business behind the mask”, particularly, in India.

Big names like Reebok, Levis, Nike, etc with good ‘understanding’ with the authorities have flooded the market, allegedly with the “non standard branded fancy masks.” Middle class always takes pride in using branded stuff in India. Even private schools have come up with their own mask going with the uniform of their school. It is easy to squeeze parents.

To hospitals and doctors, it is a “roaring business” behind the mask. Surprisingly enough, India stands at No.2 in the world for corona cases but recovery rate is over 88 per cent that too without the availability of medicine/treatment. No developed country has performed such a ‘grand feat’. What is more, there are news reports  that reveal that government hospitals are not fully equipped to tackle corona; a  great number of hospitals lack oxygen, ventilators, beds, etc. Sources reveal besides donation of  thousands of crores to PM fund by Indians,  India also got $2.9mn from the US Agency for International Development (USAID) and  World Bank  aproved $1bn corona fund to India. However,  the poor people are charged for COVID test and treatment, for the reasons best known to ‘honest’ netas only. For VIPs/VVIPs treatment is free of charge. Even if vaccine hits the market, people doubt that govt. can make it available for all. By an estimate, 80,000 crores would be needed to vaccinate all. In a country where a sizable number of populace struggling  with deadliest disease ‘hunger’, it is doubtful that government would spend the estimated whopping sum for the containment of corona.

‘Dutiful’ police, the next 'regiment' of corona ‘warriors’ which has been given free hand, always remains on its toe to ‘salute’ the mighty, and ‘sanitize’ the commoner with danda and ‘comfort-fee’. People allege brisk ‘businesses behind the mask.

People contend  that in this this tough and trying time, only government servants who have secured jobs, fat salary and no work, have been enjoying life. Private giant players like Amazon(Jeff Besos, US), Ambani, Hinduja, Shiv Nadar, Adani, Azim Premi,  even in COVID situation have amassed wealth. Rest more or less are doomed.  But all 'hon’bles' as ever are busy in discussion and suggestions. Here in India words speak louder than action. Thanks to media, the mouth piece of elitist and political class.

Duly and democratically elected government with 30-40 per cent vote share armed with managed magic numbers  is busy working overtime in passing bills after bills in the Parliament where the most of the session scores of seats remain empty – 'devoted and diligent' law makers remain busy in other more important 'public' activities than the parliament session. Notwithstanding, laws are made for the common peoples, the mighty rules the law. Indian netas have mastered the ‘rules' of the 'game’ precisely and perfectly from the wily Britisher who ruled for 200 years and bled the Indians for every penny through bills/laws. Always preoccupied with the politics of brinkmanship and one-upmanship , netas are successfully using ‘mask’ to hide all failings – low GDP, unemployment, alleged rampant corruption at implementation level by over smart government officials, widespread poverty and hunger in flood affected areas etc. There is more to this mystic mask than meets the eye.

Netas Abuse the System

Systematic Abuse of the System

Everything is hunky-dory. India belongs to people of India. But the naked reality is netas control the life of the common man by abusing the system systematically

By Mukesh Sharma

What is law? Professionally, law can be described as ‘perfection of reasons’. Any act against the law is a violation and that attracts the penalty/punishment. And the corpus of law creates the system where equality before the law is suggested; nobody is above the law; law takes its own course; there is rule of law in the country. However, it’s all book/table talk. On the ground, the system created by the law is ‘lawfully’ abused by the political dispensation so called government  -  the wily netas who are at the helm of affairs, have enough leeway to tweak and twist the system to serve their own interest and narrow ends. Resigned to fate, the common man who has no say in the system, accepts it out of no option.

All the human acts which fall under any category of crime from Section 1 to 511 as defined and described in Indian Penal Code (IPC) 1860 postulated and penned down by the genius Thomas Babington Macaulay, constitute the crime  - cognizable or non cognizable. It is known as Substantive Law. Further, how State can proceed against an act of crime, has been spelled out in Criminal Procedure Code ( Cr Pc). It’s called Adjective Law. What constitutes evidence against an act of crime which is acceptable in the court of law, is given in Evidence Act. Further the judgment passed by the Appellate Courts - High Courts and Supreme Court in any case, sets a precedent and becomes an Established Law creating a binding on Lower Courts too. The genius lies in manufacturing reasons. The inability to think beyond the reasons makes one accept it as his/her destiny. Nothing rules the human psyche like the reasons.

Netas Abuse the System

In the name of the system, hydra-headed government also has scores of ‘hands’ like proverbial Ravana; it can reach to any ‘target’ however far it is. Each hand is vested with purposeful special powers to perform the ‘lawful duties’ -  Local Police, Crime Branch, Economic Offence Wing(EOW), Enforcement Directorate ( ED), National Investigation Agency ( NIA), Narcotics Control Bureau (NCB), Income Tax, Directorate of Revenue Intelligence (DRI) etc. Netas can ‘amputate’ or ‘attach' the hands. These long "hands’ have the expertise in manufacturing the reasons to nail down their 'target' with all impunity – no punishment if the ‘target’ is wrongfully arrested, implicated or framed. By the time the hon’ble Court reaches to the conclusion that the ‘target’ is not guilty, the life of an innocent is already devastated and doomed beyond ‘repair’. Moreover, only netas  in government have powers to nominate or remove the ‘head’ of each ‘hand’ and these ‘hands’ act as puppets in the hands of netas. The cases to prove the veracity of these facts are numerous.

Obviously, no crime can occur and flourish without the direct or indirect support of the long ‘hand’. It is like a case where a young man and a woman are allowed to have ‘romance’. Even when a child is born, long ‘hand’ looks the other way round. However, if the ‘relationship’ is exposed by the media, of course, with some vested interest, long ‘hand’ turns ‘duteous’ overnight –  child is rated as illegitimate. The poor man is charged with rape; the woman is sent to naarineketan for further chastisement. Here, the system is FIR first investigation later; hang the accused first and hear him later. It’s a fact that the criminal justice system prevalent in India which is, allegedly, coercive and suppressive and propagated by the Britisher with ulterior motive for their subjects (Indians).

The next indispensable part of the system, the overburdened and understaffed judiciary is allegedly in shamble. At lower Courts cases drag on for years. Justice delayed is justice denied. Netas can get the gates of SC/HC opened even in the dead of night where this ‘sanctum sanatorium is, unofficially, beyond the reach of the common man. At district level judges are appointed through competitive exams, but they are promoted to HC/SC through a so-called collegiums comprised of senior judges and netas – people contend that it’s difficult to believe that it is free from all kinds of bias and prejudices.

 Political parties are the necessary evil in so-called democracy; the most of such parties are headed by a loud-mouthed and rough spoken neta so called ‘president; the party is run like a private company where baton is passed on to the legal heir of the president – all family business. Steeped in corruption, these parties amass wealth through unquestioned and unexamined tax free ‘donations’ in the multiple of 20k and through undisclosed multiple sources. When in power, big companies and even nationalized banks give ‘donations’ to the NGOs, run by the political parties’ family members. Each has hundreds of crore in its coffer to organize and play the ‘game’. Plethora of political parties, evidently, have marred the democracy. Since there is no free vote, the legislative members of these political parties in Lok Sabha/Rajya Sabha and State Assembly act like ‘gangs’ – follow whips and party line – no debate or discussion – a roadside like row can be witnessed in the temple of democracy. Better to call these parties as the ‘pall bearer of democracy’.

The media which is eulogized as the Fourth Estate is partisan. The most of the newspapers/TV channels side with one or other political party according to their vested interest; they are no longer surrogate of public opinion; they are the mouthpiece of netas only. They bark and bray for their favourite neta/pol party only. Even if they expose something, they do so with a specific purpose/motive - bring discredit to opponents of their ‘god father’.

Education system based on format and rote learning is also controlled by the netas. Scratch any private institution, one would find a neta underneath. Right from school to college and professional courses, it is all a lucrative business. The way the private universities have mushroomed over the years authenticates the fact. It is alleged that degrees are up for grab for a price.

The ever struggling and squirming, the hapless student community always remains at receiving end. According to NCRB data, over 10,000 students committed suicide last year – average 28 lives are lost each day. Students allege a lucky few who have well wishers at high places manage to get into government services, and the rest end up being a ‘fodder’ for private companies  - no appointment letters, just offer letter, 12 -14 hours work and no other benefits – well ‘managed’ authorities sleep comfortably on the complaint if  a harassed one dares to make complaint. That is why the meritorious students, who have resources, wish to settle in US/UK/Canada  – brain drain is rampant.

Just 15-20 giant business houses hold the strings of economy of India – GDP, Share market, fall and rise of economy – majority of people are not in the loop; unofficially over 60 per cent populace is below the poverty line struggling for their daily bread. The false promises by the netas for potable water, roads, toilet, modest house, loan, loan waiver and other petty sops –  all bare necessities make the wily netas win election after election with no change in the plight of the unblessed masses. It is argued that if India has Rs. 100 out of which Rs 80 are with 20 percent people, and Rs 20 are with 80 percent populace – root cause of crime in India.  

The banks too are important part of the system. Its open secret that all big banks advance loan with many ‘concession’ to big names only.  A common man cannot get a loan of few lakhs without good ‘understanding’ with the manager.

Except a few exceptions, medical facilities are worst, particularly, in government run hospital. It is alleged that with job security and no accountability, government servants behave as if they are master of public; they are scared of the netas only. The poor populace is always taken for a ride. Medicines are prescribed on the basis of ‘rational therapy’ – no negligence case. Medicines are sold over the counters. Big pharmaceuticals companies mint money. They can ‘manage’ any ‘authority’ with the ‘cuts’ at different levels. In this corona time several cases of malpractices/medical crimes have been exposed accidentally and reported. But who cares. Game goes on and on , allegedly, with the 'blessings' of netas.

Under the system, it is not easy to start a business unless one has political and social clouts. If one dares to start, one must learn how to ‘manage’ and ‘feed’ the ‘predators’ – Police, local Municipalities, Electricity department, Income tax, etc,. For each Rs 100 earning, one has to cough up Rs 60 and be content with Rs. 40 only. It is systematic ‘official’ loot.

There is no effective grievance redressal mechanism. The most of the vet departments have outsourced it to ‘BPOs’. The complaint of a complainant is usually forwarded to the same official/ department against whom one has complaint. The official concerned / department concerned files its explanations, and the copy of that is forwarded to complainant and chapter is closed for good. One keeps banging against the wall.

Everything is hunky-dory. India belongs to people of India. But the naked reality is netas control the life of the common man by abusing the system.